Why crave for puppet master’s approval when you can listen to your authentic voice?

Who actually are your puppet masters?

A Puppet master is an individual or group of people who tend to manipulate your thoughts. Their opinion matters so much to you that they are essentially running your life, oh wait… what did i just say? ‘running’?  Now that’s an understatement ‘ruining’ will just be perfect. …..they are essentially ruining your life.

Your puppet master can be anyone maybe a person you look up to / person you hold high regards. But what if your puppet master is not an individual but it’s the society itself?? What do you do then?  Will you continue to live as a prisoner of the society or move out and live your life by your own standards?  Hmmm…  Now that’s tricky. Feeling Hemmed – in?  If so this is a MUST READ ARTICLE.

How do we know whether we are under the influence of a puppet master ?

1. Your entire decision making process depending on a particular person / group of people (Puppet masters).
2. Concerned on constantly being in the good books of that particular person / group of people (Puppet masters).
3. Spending additional time rethinking your actions.
4. You might also be prone to decision paralysis, resulting from too many options to choose from.
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   Do the above symptoms indicate that you’re under the influence of a puppet master?

   I’m afraid yes!!

 

“The greatest prison people live in , is the fear of what other people think “.

_ David Lcke _

Thought provoking questions to get you pondering:

• Why else would you try out an outfit four times and still not sure what to wear before going out?
• Why do you feel that it’s a must do ritual to wear a clean shaven look before you be a part of any official meetings or family celebration?

Answer :

You crave for the approval of your puppet Master.

Things to quit :

• If I try really hard i can please everyone.
• Everyone is talking about me and my life; tongues are gonna wag if i do something weird.
• Being disapproved / looked down leaves behind great impacts in my life.
• Judgy people do matter… I don’t wanna be judged wrong.
• I need to be in everyone’s good books.

If you’re thinking in these lines. Then you seriously have to refashion your thinking style champ!!

How do you free yourself from the clutches of the so called ‘Puppet Masters’ ?

Now that you are aware your thoughts are being manipulated and you are under the influence of a puppet master. You surely need help. But how?  Thinking whether the part about ‘Authentic voice ‘ mentioned in the title gonna help? Mmmm…..  if you’re thinking that way, you’re absolutely right!!!

Now that you’re under the influence of the ’Manipulation Serum’ your only available antidote is your ‘Authentic voice’.

What is Authentic Voice and how will this help ?

Our authentic voice is that wee small voice that resides deep within us. It’s more or less like our moral / inner voice that judges our behaviour. It’s that part of the unconscious mind that acts as a conscience and constantly keeps on motivating awareness of ethical responsibility within us. In a nutshell that’s where the genius in us resides. We have to reclaim that genius in us.

Being said that our puppet masters have  entire control over our decision making process as they constantly keep on pulling and adjusting  strings of our decision support system, we gradually loose our opinions and our moral voice gets foggy.  Now it’s high time we re-launch that moral voice that is buried deep within us. This requires some serious reflection, where you got to sift through the web of other people’s thoughts and figure out who the real you actually are. Phewwww!! Now that’s serious work. This doesn’t sound that hard but it is. You got to gradually pull apart those strings and get the controller in hand, the controller of your decision support system. Your authentic  / moral / inner voice will act as your controller here.

When and how should I listen to my Authentic Voice ?

When it comes to the most personal questions of your life and when you are dragged towards crucial decision making situations. DO NOT look to others for answers. This is where your authentic voice plays its vital role. Don’t be that blind follower of the society and people around you. Get rid of that “Blind Follower Cloak”!! And start listening to your inner voice. It’s alright to step aside from the crowd and stand alone, because you’re doing this for yourself; your well-being.

Firstly you have to examine yourself in order to get to know your authentic voice. Be honest with your likes and dislikes. It’s more or less like the “soul searching process “or “finding yourself”. Most important tip I’d offer in your soul searching mission is to immerse yourself in solitude. Everyone needs some time alone whether you are an introvert or extrovert there is no rule as such that only introverts should dwell in solitude that’s a lame thought.

Give yourself some time and space to get away from people and spend some time alone; with yourself. In order to get to know yourself better you need some time alone. When you dwell in solitude it helps you learn about yourself (and whether you actually like yourself), it clears your mind and guides you through tough decisions.

Because solitude lets you think!!

   “One can be instructed in society,
One is inspired only in solitude.”

_  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe _

By doing so you will gradually get to know yourself better and this will in turn help you find your inner voice (Authentic Voice).

Secondly start being yourself; be the person you were meant to be. This is something beyond reflection – it takes some courage, to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you someone else. You got to muster that courage.

Be yourself and don’t worry about what other people might think. Feel free to live your life in your own standards because if not now when? Judgy people will always be judgy!  you’re being judged no matter what. So be who you want to be.

What society thinks of you should not hold you back from being the awesome you. Don’t lose yourself in trying to be everything to everyone. Because once you lose your identity you tend to build it on the approval of others and that’s where you lose touch with your authentic voice and trust me that’s really not cool.

 “People pleasing hides the real you !! “

I agree that making this shift is not easy. However, at the same time I’m convinced that this change is possible and indeed necessary.

Your authentic voice has been given for a purpose and it’s your job to make sure it fulfills its purpose of existence.

Article By : Shamla Nasir.